I usually blog about business, marketing, and events. Seldom will I share sentimental thoughts but I think this one can also be relative to all walks of life, not just in love. My comment was derived from the post realization that this video is a perfect example of believing in “grey areas.”
You shouldn’t give up on people especially when they need you the most. Some selfish minds may think “get out now, no kids, not married… no ties… just leave.” But those are advice from people who understand less the grey areas of life. Some things aren’t that simple. Will the sacrifices feel better if marriage and kids were in the picture? Do you need to say your vows first before you make ultimate sacrifices? If you can’t be there for the person you love now, then how can you expect a lifetime together? I think that the events prior to the vows are just as important. It’s not always about black and white. To think that you aren’t meant for each other because life got a little challenging is exactly the mentality that divorced couples suffer from.
Life got tough, let’s break up! We don’t feel the fire anymore let’s give up! You are not the man/woman I married, let’s give up! WRONG! When things aren’t the way you want them to be, you can either accept the change or change with it. I’m sure plenty of people are on the verge of giving up and their friends and family aren’t supporting “togetherness” because selfishly, whether people admit it or not, they hate to see victory. Stop advising separation and start advocating for togetherness. If you are the friend who gives the separation advice, let me ask you, will you be willing to really be there for your friend through thick and thin? Or perhaps only when she calls you because you have your own life, too? Don’t let your first advice be about separation. Be cognizant of the message you are sending… hold your friends hand and tell her to be strong and to be there for her spouse or other half. Support what the heart truly desires.
Marriage and kids need not come first for people to decide to make ultimate sacrifices for their other half. Perhaps, their love isn’t following your own chronological ideas of relationships but it’s still a valid relationship. Needless to say, I believe in the existence of grey areas.
How does this relate to business you ask? Let’s replace the idea of “spouse” in this blog with the idea of a “dream.” DON’T LET ANYONE TALK YOU OUT OF YOUR DREAMS! It’s your right to make the necessary sacrifices to accomplish the feeling of success the way you measure it.